Over the years, my circle of friends has grown to have more and more mom friends. As we hang out, and talk about parenting, life and what have you – I quickly came to the realization that the way I parent is not quite like their way. I should say, not all of my friends are like this – but a good deal are and it’s something I’ve had to come to just settle and understand that this is not me.
- My friends do schedules. I don’t.
- My friends like order. I like chaos.
- My friends are organized. I am not.
I’ve come to accept that this way is not my way and that is totally okay.
I am a Type-B Mom.
Here is what our good friend Wikipedia says about Type A personalities and Type B personalities:
The theory describes “Type A” individuals as ambitious, rigidly organized, highly status-conscious, sensitive, impatient, take on more than they can handle, want other people to get to the point, anxious, proactive, and concerned with time management. People with Type A personalities are often high-achieving “workaholics” who multi-task, push themselves with deadlines, and hate both delays and ambivalence.
In his 1996 book, Type A Behavior: Its Diagnosis and Treatment, Friedman suggests that Type A behavior is expressed in three major symptoms: (1) free-floating hostility, which can be triggered by even minor incidents; (2) time urgency and impatience, which causes irritation and exasperation usually described as being “short-fused”; and (3) a competitivedrive, which causes stress and an achievement-driven mentality. The first of these symptoms is believed to be covert and therefore less observable, while the other two are more overt.
The theory describes “Type B” individuals as a contrast to those with Type A personalities. People with Type B personality by definition generally live at a lower stress level and typically work steadily, enjoying achievement but not becoming stressed when they do not achieve. They may be creative and enjoy exploring ideas and concepts. They are often reflective.
And that would be me.
Birthday parties planned at the last minute, CHECK.
Play dates scheduled? Nope. (Thank you type-a’s who schedule!!)
Unorganized house, CHECK.
There are days I wish I could be more Type-A. It would be so lovely to get my kids on a schedule and I know it would make my life just so much easier, but it just doesn’t happen.
I wish that I could keep up with all of the birthdays of friends and family – but unless they are on Facebook and have their birthday listed – it’s just not going to happen.
I wish I could be the person who can do the laundry a few times a week, but no – I am the mom with the huge mountains of laundry that I fret doing.
I am just going to embrace the Type-B that I am. I am always telling my kids that I love them for how God made them, guess I should take those words and apply them to myself.
TYPE B MOM FOREVER!